Professionals who know their role can make a difference.
coordinators are just like wedding officiants, they have varying
degrees of experience and professionalism. In the two decades
I have been officiating, I have had the good pleasure to have
met the best, and I have had to work with those who are either
inexperienced or are still learning their profession. And
there are some, just like some wedding officiants, who should
not be in their profession at all. Since the majority of wedding
coordinators are women, I'll refer to them as female though
this is certainly not true in all cases.
a fraction of all brides and grooms hire a wedding coordinator.
Most often couples seek a wedding coordinator to assist them
in creating and managing their mid-sized or large sized wedding
events. Couples coming in from out of state often hire a wedding
coordinator as those couples have little understanding of
local wedding professionals, and may not know other couples
who can advise them on whom to hire.
The best wedding coordinators are experienced.
Always ask how long a coordinator has been in her profession
when considering hiring her. Hiring a newcomer means she will
be learning at your expense. Experienced wedding coordinators
know which wedding professionals to hire because they have
seen them in action. Much of your stress will be removed from
your wedding day when you are confident that a knowledgeable
wedding coordinator has advised you on hiring the right DJ,
photographer, officiant, florist, makeup artist as well as
which Chicagoland wedding venues can be counted on to provide
a first rate setting for your wedding ceremony and its reception.
To this end, wedding coordinators are indispensable.
best wedding coordinators exhibit appropriate professional
boundaries. Sometimes a wedding coordinator is present
when I am interviewing a bride and groom. If the wedding coordinator
is professional, she will listen along to the presentation
asking questions only when in need of clarification. Others
however turn into lawyers, nickel and diming me with questions,
hoping to convince her clients that hiring her was well worth
it. This cross-examination needlessly bogs down the interview
and wastes time.
wedding coordinators don't interfere with other hired professionals
as they perform their duties. In
all the wedding ceremonies I have performed, where a wedding
coordinator has inserted herself into the execution of that
wedding ceremony, the coordinator invariably hurt the performance.
How? by starting the bridal party in motion at the wrong time;
by prematurely having the DJ or musicians play while I am
still speaking to and welcoming the guests; by having the
bride and her escort begin their entrance before I could announce
that entrance and ask the audience to rise. The list goes
coordinators who are actually trying to help out with all
the chaos that can precede the start of a wedding ceremony
do so by getting the bridal party assembled and to their positions
well prior to the start of the ceremony. This includes gathering
the ushers who will be escorting VIPs to their seats as well
as the participating children. They see that handicapped guests
who are in wheelchairs have appropriate places waiting for
them (within the seated audience) rather them placing them
in the aisle. This list goes on too!
wedding coordinators handle all disbursements. An
officiant, DJ, or photographer etc., should never have to
ask the bride or groom for their final payment after the wedding
ceremony concludes. if a wedding coordinator is present, she
has that item as well as the marriage license.
wedding coordinator does just that - coordinates. The officiant
is the master of ceremonies; all events in a wedding ceremony
take place at his or her invitation. The wedding coordinator
brings harmony and ease of mind to a couple who are in the
spotlight of a very large and often complicated event. If
she is good at her skill, she will render assistance to all
the other professionals who are also tying to give that couple
a beautiful and unforgettable experience that befits a couple
joining their lives in marriage.