Notice how, in the photo above,
the reader is overlapping the groom by a couple of inches?
right hand is resting on the reader's shoulder showing the
closeness of their friendship? This arrangement, what in stage
talk is known as "blocking", makes for great photography
too doesn't it?
Yet all of this was instructed
by me and practiced during their rehearsal. Everything I do,
and everything I teach in wedding ceremony design is calculated
The real reason I encourage the
use of readers in a wedding ceremony is to connect you with
your guests. That's why a reader should not come from the bridal
party, for they are already participating. And a reader should
not come from your immediate family either- we'll get to them
with roses later on. Your readers, and you should have two
of them- one a friend of the groom, and the other associated
with the bride, should come ten or twelve rows deep out of
your audience to show your guests that they too are contributing
Readings are used in mid-ceremony,
and should be no more than 4 sentences to 2 paragraphs in length.
Your guests don't want "War and Peace." Readers are
used in my ceremonies to connect you with your guests and to
create wonderful photo op's like this with your dearest friends.
The reading itself is secondary to this.
The reader at left gave his reading
at floor level, as there was no room for him to stand on stage.
The effect is the same; for the reason we use readers is
to show all attending, that your family and friends
to you. (as well as creating outstanding photo-ops for your