Recreating the Romance of Your First Date
Great wedding ceremonies join
the bride and groom visually, not just verbally, and imagery
will always be more effective than wording in a wedding ceremony.
For these reasons the use of a unity candle, or wine sharing,
or the symbolic use of crystals (sand) followed by the presentation
of roses to female VIPs, are indispensable to a great ceremony.
They also make for exceptional photo-op's to develop your
wedding photo album.
As a unity candle is to traditional
wedding ceremonies, so wine sharing is to the modern. In mid-ceremony,
after the exchanges of vows and rings, I will ask your bridal
party to step away. It is essential that you both are the only
ones 'on stage' at this time. Standing before your pedestal
which holds two flutes and a decanter, the groom will pour
for his lady and himself. They talk,.. and then they talk some
They don't drink- not yet. It
is very important that a bride and groom put 15 to 20 seconds
on the clock before taking a sip. That's because a poised bride
and groom takes their time, whereas a nervous couple will quickly
perform their actions and thereby ruin the effect. This is
one of the many reasons I rehearse my couples to the extent
that I do. My average rehearsal
session is two and half times as long as the ceremony itself.
You're going to become a lead actor and actress, and your performance,
glasses in hand, cool, calm and collected, is going to rival
anything on the soaps. That's what I teach, this is why I teach
it, and you can see the evidence of it- in the photo above as
well as throughout this website.
Wine sharing is cutting edge;
neither your grandparents or parents used this option. If it
is not a perfect fit, feel free to modify it, just like you
can modify any wedding ceremony option I offer.